Self-expression is so important. Knowing your actual self-expression is even more important, because people always want you to express yourself in a way that appeases them. Comforts them. Impresses them. It’s interesting, the way people are.
As someone who doesn’t enable delusion and refuses to coddle, the type of interactions I’ve come into contact with have tickled me. People feel exposed, emotional, and defensive.
If people understood that the way they respond is a direct reflection of the internal conflict they carry, interactions would look very different. People who truly know themselves wouldn’t dare flinch at the inaccuracy of what others say about them. They don’t scramble to correct projections. They’re anchored in who they are. It’s like walking over the shit on the sidewalk that people choose to leave.
Self-expression is about clarity — and saying fuck you to the ones who would rather be comforted than confronted.
The Cost of Standing in Your Self-Expression
When you operate in a similar way that I just mentioned, you will have to be very selective with who you let in your energy. Be okay with not being liked and being alone. I’ve noticed how people aren’t who they say they are; there’s a lot of talking but rarely any action behind it.
When you study human behavior and realize most people operate in that type of self-expression, you’ll see people and life much clearer. And when you see clearer, it’ll be harder for your energy to be infiltrated, which is why the aloneness will accompany you. Also, understanding that everyone you come into contact with won’t have the capacity to relate to, digest, or dissect the totality of your self-expression.
This is where selectiveness plays a part as well — knowing which parts to reveal to ensure a more copacetic environment for yourself. AKA: choose your battles. It essentially boils down to more discernment.
It can be a double-edged sword because the observations most people let slide, you can’t. If you do, you are essentially doing a disservice to yourself. Your emotions cannot override your intelligence. That feeling isn’t a comfortable one. That is why loving your own energy and being able to find comfort within it has to top everything else. Dealing with something or someone because it/they give you a comforting feeling that you can’t find within yourself will never go in your best interest.
So…
Question Prompt: Are you willing to be misunderstood in order to stay honest with yourself?
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